Posts Tagged ‘Stress’

Ottawa Wedding Officiant Themes for Your Special Day

Thursday, February 24th, 2011

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I have many couples sit across from me coming to plan their special day.

I am a Wedding Officiant here in the Ottawa Valley.

In my observations over the years I have seen many types of Personalities

of Brides and just for fun

I will classify at least 5 that stand out to me.

Just for Fun I have tagged them so you can see the personality types :

1# The “Happy Gilmour” Bride

She is a Happy, laughing, Joyful Bride that I must admit is a joy to work with.

She is usually surrounded by like minded people and the Rehearsal is most

often a laugh fest filled with jokers and pranksters and everyone having a good time.

The slightest attempt at humour made by myself on the Wedding Day is always

met with uproarious laughter from people there to have a good time.

The way I see it is all Weddings should be the time of your life. Laugh be

happy make moments that you can laugh about years to come.

2# The C.S.I. Bride

The Crime Scene Investigators on T.V my favorite C.S.I. Miami with Horatio.

But these guys never overlook a piece of evidence down to a hair folicle.

Neither does the C.S.I. Bride every detail is carefully examined and nothing

is overlooked.

These are the Brides that inspired the “Create Your Own Ceremony” Template

on my website. I have had a few of these Brides

give to me a completed ceremony from start to finish and every word I was to say.

The way I see it is these are the girls that know what they want and how to do it.

They don’t miss a detail but I just hope it is not at the expense of enjoying the process

of getting married or giving room for others to get involved and enjoy it with you.

3# The BrideZilla Bride

I don’t usually meet this Bride at the planning meeting or even the Rehearsal night

but she shows up on the Wedding Day. She has let “Stress” come as an unwelcomed guest

a Wedding Crasher and she has allowed “Stress”to create a little bit of a “Monster“.

Friends and family around her are only there to calm her down, pacify her,

say nice things and positive things or else she will hurt someone with her

words and behaviour.

The way I see it is “Stress” shows up at every Wedding but you can

Use it or Lose It“. The purpose of Stress is to get things done

that need to be done in short order. It’s the Stress that drives you to do

those things now. But if you don’t recognize Stress for what it is

it will turn on you and make you into a most unlikeable person.

So get a handle on this thing called Stress and “Use It don’t Lose It.”

4 # The 5 Star General Bride

Very nice person and very controlled but she knows how to get things done.

She uses Stress like a solidier under her command. Tools she has borrowed

from her Career in Management (Executive Type). She usually comes with

a dozen questions and wants to know as much about me as a person as I

want to know about their Wedding Day.

The way I see it though with this Bride;  it is all work no play and she has attacked her Wedding Day like a work project that needs to be on the bosses desk tomorrow.

She knows how to use “Stress” but does she know how to have fun, lighten up

a little let others enter in and  enjoy this whole planning process with her ?

5# Dream Weaver Bride

She is actually living her dream come true. I am the Officiant

performing her marriage she has dreamed about since she was 4 years old.

Everything we are planning and talking about is apart of her dream come true.

She is marrying her Prince and they will live in their castle in their magical Kingdom.

The way I see it is every marriage should have a sense of a dream coming to realization.

Filled with magical moments and happy endings. I am not called to awake a Bride

from her dream we all know how that feels when someone wakes us up in the middle

of such a wonderful dream. Afterall; I am apart of that dream the only thing I caution

the Dream Weaver Bride is about the”Wet Blankets” or those that feel you need a dose

of reality. She didn’t dream about them guaranteed but they will be there nonetheless.

The way I see it is make Love apart of your Marriage. When “Love

comes to your Wedding people feel it and real laughter and tears show up too.

Real happiness, fun and dreams realized are natural by products.

The details have away of taking care of themselves and Stress has done it’s job

and things get done.

So have a Wedding filled with “Love, Happiness and Dreams Coming True“.

From your Ottawa Wedding Officiant @ Your Special Day.

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Dealing With Stress On Your Special Day !

Monday, August 24th, 2009

Don’t Stress Me Out ! !
Don’t Stress Me Out !! It’s my Wedding Ceremony ! A transformation comes
upon what once a very nice, sweet girl into a demanding, mean spirited
spoiled little brat ! ! What’s all that about ? It’s called the approaching Wedding Day !
It doesn’t matter much if the Ceremony Vows and all the Wedding Planning
are in order. The Wedding Day brings a visitor called “Stress”.
Reverend Stephen Ongo founder of speaks freely.

Their was a radio show that had a little bit entitled “The Call Of The Day “.
What they would do is someone would call into the station with a real life
scenario of say a good friend of theirs is getting married and they have booked
their hall at such and such and they are very stressed that everything just goes right.
Now the D.J. would call up the bride to be and tell her that they are the
management of the Hall they had just booked and unfortunately they have
overbooked for your day and we are unable to honour your booking.

Now this whole telephone conversation is being aired on live radio and
whoever is listening to that station is hearing a bride to be absolutely lose it.
If it wasn’t so tragic it would be funny. She has sent out all the invitations
by now, the call comes in maybe on a Tuesday or Wednesday and the
Wedding is on Saturday. There is absolutely no time to find another place
or even inform the 100 or more guests of the change. This is Stress at it’s MAX ! ! gy39ac74uw

This changes nice girls into another kind of creature. One you do not want
to be 100 yards from. Of course you can know some explicits are filling the
airwaves, some tears, alot of anger, some tantrums and a whole gamutt of
other emotions. Do you think this would be a good time to tell her that this
was only a joke played on you by your best friend. And that you are on the
radio to boot so all your friends know what you are really like under the gun.

Stress is not your enemy. To all the Brides to be it can either make you
or break you . You can come up like a shinning penny and actually be the
best you have ever been or let it turn you into a tyrant nobody wants to be around.
Stress is natures way of putting the pressure on you to let you know what
needs to be done and do it or get someone else to. Stress is not your
enemy or an excuse to take some drugs. Stress does not give you licence
to be rude, mean spirited or hurt or offend the ones you love. It has a
purpose and you should recognize that purpose and use it. Don’t let it
control your personality to the point people say she’s a nice person but
don’t get her stressed.
My exhortation to the Brides to be;” Don’t let Stress Change you
because it’s inevitable it will visit your Wedding. Use it work with it .
Stress can get alot of good and necessary things done for
Your Special Day so don’t treat it like an unwelcomed enemy.
Reverend Stephen Ongo over 1000 Wedding Ceremonies in 24 Years.
Now shares his expertise on his first website:
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